Category / change

by Nathan Coumbe

Act “as if”

Acting “as if” is the only way to change. 

Reading, studying, thinking—none of that will create change without action. 

People are afraid to take the actions necessary because they don’t feel like they’re “THAT” type of person yet.

But you don’t become “that guy” until you start acting like that guy.

So act as if.

…As if you ARE patient, kind, and understanding.

…As if you ARE lean, strong, and healthy.

…As if you ARE a confident entrepreneur.

…As if you ARE a loving spouse or parent.

Acting as if, a little bit each day, will eventually become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

by Nathan Coumbe

Change your story, change your results

Each of us has an internal narrative constantly chattering about who we are. 

But what we don’t always realize is that internal narrative influences how we behave.

If you tell yourself the story that, “Overeating makes me feel happy,” that story might be a stand-in for the real story—“I’m unhappy with different aspects of my life and overeating gives me a small dose of pleasure.”

Until you realize this, you’ll continue to overeat and live on greasy fast food multiple times each week.

(I know this because it’s a story I’m trying to rewrite myself). 

If you tell yourself a story that says, “I’m not skilled at sales or business,” you might never realize your unresolved dream of starting your own venture and working for yourself. 

The first step to overcoming many of our chronic issues is to start telling ourselves a different story. 

Changing what you do starts by changing your identity—who you believe yourself to be. 

Change the story, change the person.

by Nathan Coumbe

Plant a new tree every 11 days

You’re a dedicated internet user, which also means you’re an experienced “searcher.” 

But what if those searches could help make a dent in our little carbon problem? 

You can take a tiny action today and switch your default search engine over to Ecosia, the search engine that plants trees. 

For every 45 searches you make, Ecosia’s team will plant a tree where it’s both needed and will thrive. And it’s powered by Bing, so your search result quality won’t change at all!

According to HubSpot, the average person makes four searches each day. That means if you switch, on average, you’ll plant one new tree every 11 days. Imagine the difference that could make to your carbon footprint.

Make this one small change. Click here and start planting trees now.

by Nathan Coumbe

Fix your complaining

I learned a great technique from Dr. John Berardi which has really helped improve my outlook on life. 

Here’s what I learned from him:

“It feels silly, but every time I find myself complaining, I immediately stop and list off three good things about my day.”

Read the article about this gratitude technique here, then try it for yourself and let me know how it goes.

by Nathan Coumbe

Denis Waitley was wildly optimistic…

Denis Waitley was wildly optimistic about the future when he recorded “The Psychology of Winning” in the 1990s.

Here are just some of those predictions:

  • Hydrogen-powered cars that cleaned the air as we drove them by 2010.
  • 100% online, virtual education for all students everywhere. No need to drive to classes anymore when you can just access everything online.
  • Supersonic and hypersonic planes used as our normal mode of transportation. Any major city within a three-hour flight no matter where you are on the planet. 
  • High school seniors flying to Hong Kong for their senior prom in two hours. Don’t sneak over to Australia for the afterparty—and make sure you’re home by 1am!

Denis also predicted that by the year 2000, women would have equal pay with men and be equally represented in business schools, law schools, and entrepreneurial startups.

Like I said, wildly optimistic. It might even seem laughable, like something out of a futuristic 80s movie.

And yet…

We are so busy trying to get back to normal after this pandemic, we’ve somehow lost all the opportunity to actually make these happen.

Because of COVID-19, we already did 100% online, virtual education for a year and a half. It wasn’t perfect (far from it). But it worked. It’s been shown to be possible. 

But we were so busy being focused on “getting back to normal,” we seemed to have missed the opportunity to push it further and make it better.

I don’t know the first thing about hydrogen scrubbing and powered cars. But I do know we have the technology for all-electric vehicles that don’t pump pollution and toxins into the air on a daily basis (multiple companies have this tech). 

But instead, we’re buying bigger, badder, less efficient, gas-guzzling, pollution-admitting, tank-like vehicles, all in an effort to make a statement about our political views or our masculinity.

And here we are, 22 past after the year 2000… And women are still fighting for equal pay, equal representation, and control over their own bodies, not to mention all the other genders and races fighting for the same things.

So yes, Dennis was wildly optimistic. But it’s understandable why.

Because even back then the technology was coming online, the possibilities were there, and he saw them and thought, “Surely the world will embrace all of this—right?”

Yet here we are. Rejecting all of it out of hand. 

Yes—some of these wonderful possibilities were forced on us by a horrible situation… Yet they were still wonderful opportunities. 

But we were so desperate to go back to normal that we looked them in the face and said, “No thank you.” 

We’re operating with 21st-century technology and possibilities while trying to stay in a 20th-century world. Why?

Because it’s the world we know. It’s the status quo. It’s “the regular kind.”

I feel like we missed a big opportunity here. And now I’m worried it may be years or decades before what’s possible actually comes to fruition.

by Nathan Coumbe

Creativity and permission

I was walking at the park near my house this afternoon. And when I crossed the bridge, walking the well-known paths I’ve memorized, I saw a picnic table next to the river where no table had ever been before. 

It’s at the perfect place where you can hear the water splashing over the tiny spillway under the bridge—a light, pleasant gurgling and rushing sound that’s quite pleasing to the ears.

From the looks of it, somebody went out and bought treated pine from a home improvement store, built it themselves, and set it up in this spot. 

They didn’t ask permission. They simply thought that this little neck of the woods would benefit from having a place for people to sit… A place to gather and eat next to the water with family and friends in peace and near-quiet.

This was a small, brave, creative act. They didn’t ask permission from the Parks Department to let them do it. They saw a way to make something a little better for other people, and they did it. 

They took a small creative risk. That’s what we were asked to do on a daily basis. 

No one ever gives us permission to be creative. No one will ever give us permission to make things better. 

Because the way things are right now is the status quo. And people don’t want the status quo to change. So we have to create—to make things better—without asking if it’s okay. 

It takes a little bit of courage, the tiniest amount of risk, and the will to act.

by Nathan Coumbe

Are you flip-flopping? Good.

This is the primary sign of being a mature, well-balanced adult:

The ability—AND WILLINGNESS—to change your mind about something you believe or hold dear in the face of new information.

You’ll be ridiculed for it. You’ll be called a “flip-flopper“. But so what?

You’re growing and learning, adapting and changing. That’s all that matters.

by Nathan Coumbe

The weeds don’t need your help

If you leave a garden unattended, weeds will grow in abundance.

They do best when left alone. They don’t need any nurturing, nutrients, watering, or attention from you. They’ll grow just fine on their own.

But if you want a garden full of beautiful flowers or delicious fruits and vegetables, you must be intentional.

You must dig, plant, water, fertilize, nurture… And rip up the weeds by the root!

The same is true for the thoughts in your head, the story you’re telling yourself on a daily basis.

The negative thoughts are weeds.

“I can’t…”

“They won’t let me…”

“This won’t work…”

“I’ve failed before so why should I try again?”

“I’m not good enough…”

These thoughts will spring up naturally and strangle the garden of your mind if you sit idly. And they’ll take over without any action on your part.

So, just like with the garden in your backyard, you must be intentional and put in the difficult, caring work. Rip out the weedy thoughts by the roots. Replace them with the good stuff, whatever that is for you.

Positive mental attitudes, affirmations, visualizations… Or my favorite: someone else’s encouraging words playing on repeat in your head. (I’d recommend starting here.)

Whatever you want to grow in your mind, treat it with the same care and attention you would with a beautiful garden of your own.

by Nathan Coumbe

Long-held beliefs

“We’ve always done it this way…”

The phrase everyone hates to hear when they’re trying to make a difference. Or do something that could make things better. 

Long-held beliefs, the “regular” way of doing things… These are just examples of the status quo doing what the status quo does. 

If you look back far enough, at anything that’s become accepted as “normal,” you’ll find that the status quo was once new and radical too…

And that means one thing: “the way it’s always been done,” is NOT the way it’s always been done.

by Nathan Coumbe

Consistency is key

“If you want to change your body, being consistent is more important than anything else.”

—Precision Nutrition, “Prepare for liftoff”

This is wonderful advice. But it doesn’t just apply to your body.

With anything you pursue, consistency is the key factor that will determine success or failure, change or stagnation.

If you want to be a writer, showing up to the page consistently—upon waking for Morning Pages or each evening on a blog—is the most important thing you can do.

If you want to start a business, showing up to work on it every day—writing copy, sending emails, building an offer—is the way to do it.

Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do.” To be the thing you want to be, you have to do it day after day.

What do you want to become? What do you need to do consistently to become that?