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by Nathan Coumbe

Freedom has obligations

It’s not oxymoronic; it’s built into the very idea of freedom.

We have forgotten that personal liberty actually comes with obligations. We assume that it means that we’re free to do whatever we want, regardless of the consequences.

But liberty comes with a social contract. We are obligated to be decent to others, to be members of a society that considers the welfare of others, and to care about what other people think about our actions, especially when those actions affect them. 

Just as it’s easier than ever to get a divorce and leave your family—to leave that “obligation” behind—we seem to think that we can abandon principles because we are “free.”

Viktor Frankl, who survived the very worst of what humanity is capable of in the Holocaust, proposed that the United States build a second statue on the West Coast to accompany the Statue of Liberty on the East.

It was to be a Statue of Responsibility. He recognized, and I hope you will as well, that you cannot have the former without the latter.

by Nathan Coumbe

Freedom, self-discipline, and responsibility

Contrary to what some people believe, freedom doesn’t mean you’re allowed to do whatever you want, whenever you want. 

Dwight D. Eisenhower’s philosophy was that freedom is the opportunity for self-discipline. 

Give a child total freedom and what happens? They live on ice cream and candy bars, set fire to the yard, and traumatize the pets and neighbors. In short, they become the quintessential “hooligan” so many suburbanites fear.

That’s why we have to instill external discipline in them at first and help them internalize it. That’s the only way they can become free without our oversight.

The same is true for adults, especially in our roles as citizens of a state or nation. They must learn how to use their freedom responsibly before they can truly call themselves “free citizens.”

Viktor Frankl said the United States should have set up a Statue of Responsibility on the west coast to compliment our Statue of Liberty on the east coast. He knew you couldn’t really have the latter without the former. 

And to paraphrase Uncle Ben from Spider-Man: “With great FREEDOM comes great responsibility.” We seem to forget that because we’re free, we are responsible for using that freedom in a disciplined manner. 

The late, great motivational speaker Zig Ziglar had a saying:

“Take a train off the tracks, and it’s totally free… But it can’t go anywhere.”

Take whatever meaning from this you will. But I know what it means to me. 

by Nathan Coumbe

Avoiding tension

Perhaps that’s what’s got you stuck… For humans are born for tension.

It’s only by overcoming strife and difficulty that we figure out who we are.

“What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for a worthwhile goal…”

—Victor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning, p. 105

The tension in our lives gives us something to pull or push against. And thereby a way to become who we’re capable of being.

Perhaps that is who we are meant to be.