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My mission is to learn, inform, inspire, and improve. I am a passionate teacher, an avid writer, a leader of people, and a strategic thinker. Wherever I am, whatever the work I am called to do, my goal is the same: make my little corner of the world better for everyone in it. To do this, I ask better questions and solve more interesting problems for those I serve. Think deeply. Think often. Keep exploring. Always be curious.
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Freedom from consequences

Trevor Noah recently said something I feel very strongly about. I’m paraphrasing a bit:

“People who are pro-free speech [at all costs]…are only really pro-free speech about their speech that might offend other people.”

Or, I might add, that may be despicably untrue…then an algorithm picks it up and spreads it to gullible or ill-informed victims…

But here’s the thing: freedom of speech protects you against government intervention.

It doesn’t give you the right to be an asshole (or evil) without consequences.

It also doesn’t protect you from businesses, corporations, or individuals limiting what you say.

You can’t say “bomb” in an airport without being tackled by TSA agents.

You can’t tell a restaurant owner to “eat shit and die”—then expect to be allowed back in to eat.

You also can’t say terrible things to a person and force them to stick around and listen… At least not in the real world (but apparently we expect others to do just that online).

That’s not free speech.

Somehow we’ve conflated (incorrectly) the idea of “I can say whatever I want no matter what,” with part of the First Amendment of the US Constitution.

But:

Everything you say or do has consequences.

They might be good OR bad, but consequences of some sort will ensue regardless. That’s a natural law of the universe. And it’s immature to say or do something awful, then get upset when it has negative consequences for you.

This argument we’re having about what’s “allowed” to be said on the internet—it isn’t an argument about free speech.

Rather, it’s a conversation about actions and their consequences.

Our desire to avoid taking responsibility for those actions…and who determines what those consequences are.

You can do whatever you want…

You just can’t control the outcome of whatever you do.

“When you pick up one end of the stick, you pick up the other.”

—Stephen R. Covey
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Important things don’t scream

“The things which are most important don’t always scream the loudest.”

—Bob Hawke

In fact, they often whisper. 

Like the child who quietly asks for your attention while wringing her hands: “Hey, Mom?”

Or that stabbing twinge in your chest that’s been paining you more often.

The screaming in our everyday lives often distracts us from what we should really be paying attention to.

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Good for the hive

There’s a Chinese proverb folks seem to have forgotten:

“What is good for the hive is good for the bee.”

Yet a lot of Americans today seem to be focused on the the bees…

“What’s best for me? I don’t care how it affects anyone else.”

“How can I maximize my short-term pleasure?” (Implied in this is, “And increase my long-term pain?”)

“This new policy is good for me, so what else matters?”

If the bees acted that way, the hive would die. And we’d have no honey. 

But we’d also have no crops. People would starve. We’d lose access to essential medications—even fibers for clothing.

Maximizing individual short-term interests rarely leads to anything good for most people.

It’s because we live in a world of systems. And systems are greater than the sum of their individual parts. They also have 2nd-, 3rd-, and even 4th-order effects. 

Ask yourself, the next time you’re voting, writing a new policy, or drafting a law:

“Is this good for the hive?”

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The only thing we have in common

There is exactly ONE THING that all human beings have in common with each other:

We are all completely different.

We all see things differently. We’ve all had different experiences, good and bad. We were born physically different. We were raised in different cultures.

And we’d be fools to believe this didn’t affect the decisions we make and the things we want. 

Once we understand that, we can begin to work with each other to actually make things better.

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Childhood inclinations

Don’t get in the way of your children’s natural inclinations.

If they want to write, encourage it. If they want to dance or sing, help them do it. If they want to play sports, give them the means to do so.

We all seem to be wired for different things. Trying to become something we’re not is the worst possible way to live.

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Freedom, self-discipline, and responsibility

Contrary to what some people believe, freedom doesn’t mean you’re allowed to do whatever you want, whenever you want. 

Dwight D. Eisenhower’s philosophy was that freedom is the opportunity for self-discipline. 

Give a child total freedom and what happens? They live on ice cream and candy bars, set fire to the yard, and traumatize the pets and neighbors. In short, they become the quintessential “hooligan” so many suburbanites fear.

That’s why we have to instill external discipline in them at first and help them internalize it. That’s the only way they can become free without our oversight.

The same is true for adults, especially in our roles as citizens of a state or nation. They must learn how to use their freedom responsibly before they can truly call themselves “free citizens.”

Viktor Frankl said the United States should have set up a Statue of Responsibility on the west coast to compliment our Statue of Liberty on the east coast. He knew you couldn’t really have the latter without the former. 

And to paraphrase Uncle Ben from Spider-Man: “With great FREEDOM comes great responsibility.” We seem to forget that because we’re free, we are responsible for using that freedom in a disciplined manner. 

The late, great motivational speaker Zig Ziglar had a saying:

“Take a train off the tracks, and it’s totally free… But it can’t go anywhere.”

Take whatever meaning from this you will. But I know what it means to me. 

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There are no good pharmaceutical ads

I saw a commercial for a new drug the other day… And I have to say it was one of the worst attempts at advertising/marketing a product I’ve ever seen.

But then I realized—they’re all the same. There are no good commercials for medications. 

Setting aside the fact that I genuinely believe Pharma companies should not be allowed to market products to the public—(isn’t it a doctor’s job to have those conversations?)—how can these companies make so much money and yet create such terrible videos?

Here’s how it plays out:

Picture some generic guy riding a horse, rock climbing, skydiving, or walking across hot coals—that’s how they always open. And you can’t relate because 99% of us don’t do the things these companies claim are the “normal” their meds will get you back to. 

The “normal guy” turns to the camera and says, “I have moderate to severe tuber-itis-osis.” Because, of course, that’s how we all talk. Whenever someone asks us what’s wrong, we label it “moderate to severe.”

Then they tell you about this great new medicine to fix the problem… Except NOTHING in these commercials tells you anything about the benefits you can expect from the drugs.

Instead, you’re treated to a 90-second monologue about all the grave, even deadly, side effects this “breakthrough drug” might cause, which plays over a backdrop of iMovie edits of random people walking through deserts or the Grand Canyon.

This violates every rule of marketing—there are no benefits to us and nothing but drawbacks are ever mentioned. It’s too long and drawn out, never gets to the point, and doesn’t answer “what’s in it for me?” What school did they go to?

Then, they wrap up by telling us to “ask our doctor” about this new medication. Nope—I’m not doing that.

It’s the doctor’s job to stay current on what works best, not ours. We don’t have a medical degree or the domain knowledge to make suggestions to our physicians.

Imagine the millions of dollars wasted each day these ads run. Money that could be spent making better meds, doing more research, or put to any number of better uses. 

Maybe Big Pharma should market to the doctors… And let THEM have these conversations with us. 

It’d save them a lot of money and the viewers a lot of boredom.

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2 hours a day

What would your work day look like if you compressed everything into just two hours? Well, I tried it.

I gave myself two hours to complete a project that I was sure was going to take all day to finish. You know what happened?

I finished it in two hours.

Most of the projects (work or otherwise) take much longer than they should. And I think the reason is because we spend so much time working around them instead of on them.

We check our emails. Look at text messages. Do a little work. Check the news to make sure we didn’t miss anything important (we didn’t). Maybe do a little more work.

If only we could more reliably put our heads down and sprint through the project at hand. We’d create so much extra margin in our personal lives.

If you could give yourself only two hours to get your most important, what would that look like? Could you keep your job that way?

(h/t to Tim Ferriss for the nudge in this direction)

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Wash dishes. Fold laundry.

It’s the modern-day equivalent to “Chop Wood, Carry Water”. A way to find Zen in the mindless, repetitive tasks we must do each day.

Over and over again with no end in sight.

(There’s never an empty sink or laundry basket in my house. Ever.)

But I take them to be signs of life—a family going through the motions of good living.

Dirty dishes mean home-cooked meals and conversations at the dinner table.

Smelly laundry means people played outside, moved their bodies, and had fun.

And if finding Zen in those chores isn’t your thing, you can look at them as a chance to do something else.

Like connect with your kids over the dishwasher.

Or listen to your favorite album.

Or stay abreast of new developments in your industry.

Or practice your Spanish.

Wash dishes. Fold laundry.

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Selfishness vs. prioritization

Asking your spouse to watch the kids for 4 hours every Saturday so you can get your research done…

That’s not selfish. 

That’s self-prioritization. And it’s the only way to get important things done. 

It may feel selfish. Other people might TELL you it’s selfish. 

You’re wrong. And so are they. 

We have to be willing to ask people to take things off our plates so we can take care of the “Big Rocks” in our lives. And reciprocate in kind when the same is asked of us.

Knowing, and asking for, what you need to be your best self makes things better for everyone you influence.

How is that selfish?

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